3 Bisexuality myths

I am the B in LGBT. I am the bisexual.

Myths about bisexuality pervade society. Some of them are really negative and powerful that it can affect a person identifying as a bisexual badly. This is a post that aims to shatter some of these assumptions.

Myth 1: We are just lying (shh! we're just afraid to say we really are gays and lesbians).

Just like a good myth or stereotype there is a grain of truth in here. It's really true that some gays and lesbians come out first as a bisexual even though they know inside of their hearts they aren't. And I have no problem with that. We need to understand that they are still trying to test the waters of acceptance and being out. We all have our reasons. But, to assume that every person who identify as bisexual is either gay or lesbian is an affront. It's akin to saying that our sexual orientation does not really exist or we are just confused - I know that gay and lesbian people know how much it hurts when people say that, I think you understand us.

There really are bisexual people. We are not confused or just trying to be cool. If you're not convinced, here's the evidence.

Myth 2: Male bisexuals does not exist

What am I? Actually we are existent.

The finding is not likely to surprise bisexuals, who have long asserted that attraction often is not limited to one sex. But for many years the question of bisexuality has bedeviled scientists. A widely publicized study published in 2005, also by researchers at Northwestern, reported that “with respect to sexual arousal and attraction, it remains to be shown that male bisexuality exists.”

Myth 3: We cannot be monogamous.

This is really a bad one. Some bisexuals undergo this kind of biphobia. Especially with some of their partners. Some people in relationships with bisexuals  suffer from the fear that their partners are having an affair with someone of the other sex - it frustrates them and their partner. Of course, some bisexuals are in polyamorous relationships, but reasons for this set-up are different. Some have them because of pure love for two people, some for fun, the list goes on. But as do bisexuals can sometimes engage in this, this is no truer than the fact that straight people can two-time too. We can be as monogamous as straight, gay, lesbian and trans couples too.